Knowing your husband is or could possibly be cheating is devastating. It may seem like the end of the world, but most women in this situation fail to realize that life goes on even when some aspects of it are falling apart. The common reaction is to break down, go on a rage, or withdraw. Infidelity happens and the pain takes time to heal. How does one cope?
Verify and Confront
Depending on how you discovered your husband was cheating, a good first step will be to either verify the story or confront the accused. It will be painful, whatever you do. But, it will also provide you with information to help you take the right action or make the best decision.
Anger and threats are normal reactions, but get the facts. Verification may mean confrontation. Brace yourself and try to remain rationale throughout the ordeal. Getting proof, if you only learned of the cheating from others, is necessary before acting rashly like leaving with the kids.
Confrontation, while painful, will allow both parties to think about the situation. It could also be a path to reconciliation, especially if it leads to a good heart-to-heart talk.
Whether it is from family, friends, or professionals, get help of some kind. At least have someone to listen. It is always good to vent your feelings or express your thoughts just to release the heaviness inside your heart. It will also mean having a support group to be there for you, especially during moments when you remember the situation you’re in.
At the same time, seeking professional help with your husband, will help the other party decide whether or not to continue the relationship or not.
A cheating husband often makes a wife feel worthless. Whatever your flaws may be, don’t take all the blame for what happened. It was your husband who did wrong. It may seem that your heart was shattered by the experience, but you are your own person. Do not forget to take care of yourself, especially if there are children who depend on you.
Consider Your Legal Rights
Speak to a lawyer who specializes in family law. In case of a divorce, there are things that a wife is legally entitled to have, and you should know those.
Cry, laugh, be angry. Then live. Your life should not stop because your husband had or has an affair. When you feel settled and can think rationally, decide what you want to happen next.